Feminine knowing
After sensing into the first part of M’s map, the I of the leader, we shifted our attention to the We part of it. This wasn’t as clear as the first part, so this posting might be a little of ‘bits and pieces’… we will see.
I remember speaking vividly about the difference of feminine knowing and masculine knowing. It was more a showing than a speaking actually! Masculine knowing is taking a step back (see me stepping away) from the experience, it is talking about something, it is building a concept after the facts… Feminine knowing (not to be confused with women’s knowing! men know this too!) is knowing IN the experience (see me stepping into the center again): while drawing ‘getting something’ you never understood before; while walking in nature ‘getting’ what you need to do next. The knowing IS in the totality of your being, not just in your head; it is as if your cells understood something.
We spoke about what Collective Presencing really meant. It can only happen in a combination of on the one hand holding together a question or being in collective inquiry and on the other hand a collective holding space, a connection to source or soul. As women we are wired, through our wombs, to bring the Source back into the world. In doing so we, as women, become more whole, but men become more whole too. We are in this way healing across genders.
I remember taking M. in the middle of our circle, taking her in a collective hug, where she could ‘get’ – in a feminine, embodied way – that she was welcome in this We. The We is not a headplace, the We can only be experienced. This brought up the entanglement of ‘being intimate in a physical way’ with ’sexuality’. It is important to make the difference between them.
Another entanglement showed up in a constellation that emerged out of the question: What would my womb tell me? How do I/we move from the womb? IThe theme was an entanglement between womb and sexuality, which blurred right relationship with men. There was confusion – held by so many women – : to be a powerful woman, I can’t be sexual, I can’t be attractive to men. In the constellation the woman could take her womb and her sexuality next to her, which made her feel more powerful and complete. “This is my home.” Bringing in the element of the World gave her a larger perspective, much broader than the relationship with the man only. It was inspiring for the man too! “The relationship with your purpose, freed all my creative energy!” The constellation was complete.
The constellation also showed that we, as women, have to step forward with what we know is right to do. We can stop complaining that men don’t do it in the right way; but step forward and say: I/we know something here; at least the next step. Are you willing to come along?